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Help! Motivation!

For my friends.

Searching the ‘interweb’ as one does to find suitable relevant sources of information to share with the readers can often be quite discouraging which is why this week I thought I’d focus on Motivation. As one of the key drivers we all occasionally lack, here for your perusal with the aid of psychology. com is this week’s offering, I hope you enjoy.motivation 5

There are plenty of theories and tips designed to help people get motivated, but some of the psychological factors that can influence motivation might surprise you. Did you know that visualizing success can backfire? Or that incentives can sometimes make people less motivated?

Check out just a few of the surprising things that can impact motivation.

  1. Use Incentives Carefully

If someone already enjoys doing something, then it stands to reason that rewarding them for the behaviour would make them like it even more, right?

In many cases, the answer is actually no.

Researchers have found that rewarding people for doing things that they are already intrinsically motivated to do can actually backfire. Remember, intrinsic motivation arises from within the individual. It is essentially doing something for the pure enjoyment of it. Doing the task is its own reward.motivation 2

In instances where children are rewarded for doing something they already enjoy, such as playing with a certain toy, their future motivation to engage in the activity actually decreases. Psychologists refer to this phenomenon as the over-justification effect.

So be cautious with rewards. Incentives can work well to increase motivation to engage in an activity that is otherwise unappealing, but overdependence upon such rewards might actually end up decreasing motivation in some cases.

How can you use this concept to increase motivation?

Use extrinsic rewards sparingly.

Rewards can be effective if the individual truly has no intrinsic interest in the activity.

Try an extrinsic reward during the initial learning period, but phase out these rewards as the learner become more interested in the activity.

  1. Introduce Challenges

When facing a task, which do you find more motivating – doing something easy that you’ve done a hundred times and could probably do in your sleep, or doing something that is within the realm of possibilities but requires learning something new or stretching your existing abilities? For many people, the first option might be the easiest, but the second more challenging option will probably sound more interesting and motivating.

If you are trying to increase your motivation to do something, like getting out of bed early for a run, breaking away from the same old routines and introducing new challenges can be an effective way to keep that motivational spark.

Challenge yourself.motivation 6

Sign up for a local marathon. Focus on improving your times or going just a little bit further than you usually do. No matter what your goal, adding incremental challenges can help you improve your skills, feel more motivated, and bring you one step closer to success.

  1. Don’t Visualize Success

One of the most common tips for getting motivated is to simply visualize success, yet research suggests that this might actually be counterproductive. The problem is that people often visualize themselves achieving their goals, but skip over visualizing all the effort that goes into making those goals a reality.

By imagining that you have achieved the desired goal, you’re actually depleting the amount of energy you have available to devote to accomplishing the task itself.

Previous research has shown that idealized fantasies about the future typically predict poor achievement, and more recent research has found that mentally indulging in such visualization saps available energy.motivation 3

So what does work?

Instead of imagining yourself suddenly successful, imagine all the steps it will take to achieve that success.

What challenges will you face? Knowing what you might encounter can make it easier to deal with when the time comes.

What strategies can you use to overcome those challenges? Planning ahead can leave you better prepared to overcome the difficulties you might face.

  1. Take Control

People often feel more motivation when they feel like they have control over what is going to happen. Have you ever been part of a group where you felt like you really had no personal control over the outcome? Did you feel particularly motivated to contribute to the group?motivation 4

One of the reasons people sometimes dislike “group work” is that they lose that individual sense of control and contribution.

What can you do to take back control in group situations?

If you are working in a group (or trying to motivation a group of followers), finding a way to make each person feel empowered and influential can help.

Give individuals control over how they contribute how their ideas are presented or used.

Allow group members to determine what goals they wish to pursue.

  1. Focus on the Journey, Not the Outcome

Constantly fixating on the outcome, on success or failure, can seriously impair motivation. In her research on different mindsets, psychologist Carol Dweck has found that praising children for fixed traits (such as being smart or attractive) can actually decrease motivation and persistence in the future.

This type of praise, she believes, causes people to develop what is known as a fixed mindset. People with this mindset believe that personal characteristics are simply inborn and unchanging and thing that people are either smart or dumb, pretty or ugly, athletic or non-athletic, and so on.

So how can you avoid developing a fixed mindset?

Praising efforts rather than traits is the key, Dweck suggests. Instead of just focusing on the outcome, on whether you will succeed or fail, try to focus on the journey toward reaching your goals.

What have you learned from the process? Remember, the journey is just as important as the outcome.motivation 1

What actions have been the more effective and rewarding? By assessing your efforts, you can fine-tune your future actions to achieve better results.

Whether you are trying to lose weight, run a marathon, earn a degree, or complete some other type of goal, motivation plays a critical role in your overall success or failure. Some of these research findings might contradict your existing ideas about what works and what doesn’t in terms of motivation. Try incorporating a few of these strategies into your daily habits to improve your enthusiasm and drive to succeed.

References

Dweck, C. S. (2006). Mindset: The new psychology of success. New York: Random House.

Kappes, H. B., & Oettingen, G. (2011). Positive fantasies about idealized futures sap energy. Journal of Experimental and Social Psychology, 47(4), 719-729.  doi:10.1016/j.jesp.2011.02.003.

Malone, T. W. & Lepper, M. R. (1987). Making learning fun: A taxonomy of intrinsic motivations for learning. In R. E. Snow & M. J. Farr (Eds.), Aptitude, learning, and instruction: III. Conative and affective process analysis. Hillsdale, NJ: Erlbaum.

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Food for though

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Abandon all hope, or hope with wild abandon? Doj

Unless you are in a nursing profession, or it is something that comes naturally to you, caring and listening with empathy and genuine concern to want to support a friend. Listening about the ills of others is largely seen as something many of us would rather avoid. We all have our own problems, right? With this in mind how do we approach our friends and family and try to foster the support we need without our perceiving ourselves as a burden?

Many organisation have taken up the challenge of attempting to change the perceptions of others when it comes to mental health. Rising its profile and reducing the stigma. The World Heath Organisations states “Mental health has been hidden behind a curtain of stigma and discrimination for too long. It is time to bring it out into the open. The magnitude, suffering and burden in terms of disability and costs for individuals, families and societies are staggering. In the last few years, the world has become more aware of this enormous burden and the potential for mental health gains. We can make a difference using existing knowledge ready to be applied. We need to enhance our investment in mental health substantially and we need to do it now”.

For all individuals, mental, physical and social health are vital and interwoven strands of life. As our understanding of this relationship grows, it becomes ever more apparent that mental health is crucial to the overall well-being of individuals, societies and countries”.

That’s reads very well but how does this effect the individual sitting at home staring at the ceiling? From an individual point of view, one who is or has suffered with a mental health condition, it’s not an easy thing to do. There are many things that one considers before deciding to tell your friends about a condition. There is often concern that your friends may not know enough about your condition and therefor will shy away from talking to you about it. The stigma of being ‘crazy’ or worse, perceived as being weak scares the individually from ‘coming out. Likened in fact and very similar in many ways to the same associated feeling of trepidation one might expect a gay person wanting to ‘come out’ to their friends and family. The mental health sufferer has similar concerns.

What if after I inform my friends I lose many of them, I’m not sure I can cope with that loss? Would I rather have a list of friends on social media than having a much shorter list of friends of genuine people who are sympathetic and supportive? If they are the type of people who do shy away from wanting to support you, or fail to educate themselves properly so they can support you, then perhaps you’re better off without them, should you be counting them as friends?

But not knowing if you have the kind of friends who will not judge, who will support you no matter what, can be deeply concerning for many who suffer with a mental health condition. For the sake of clarity, generally when we talk about support and caring, we are not expecting our friends to suddenly turn up at the door to offer breakfast in bed, although this would be amazing. We have to look at those friends and understand that they may not be the kind of person who copes well with ‘ill’ people, we have to respect that. We have to understand also that they may know nothing of the condition you suffer or live with, so ramming it down their throats will be as successful as getting a person to read the Watchtower. We need to concern ourselves with how the stigma might embellish the perceptions of others.

Honestly the best way forward is honesty, if after you have told your friends that you have been suffering with a mental health condition for over ten years and you pour your heart out and try to explain that some weeks is so hard to cope with the most mundane of tasks. Often it is the medication you take that gives you the perception of being in control of your functions. If they turn and run a mile then let them run.

So what support is considered genuine? A phone call, a text, perhaps a visit. An offer to help, if you’re not sure how to, offer to go shopping for them, offer to drive them shopping, take then to the cinema, just pop over for a coffee and a chat. Often letting off steam, having a good moan or putting the world to right is all a person needs. Or just talking about other mundane stuff, just talking. It offers a sense of worth that can so easily be forgotten when you are alone and coping with a mental health condition. It is more beneficial to realise and know they have friends that care, friends that are there. Now if you want to make breakfast in bed or offer bed baths, paint the house etc. then that would be fantastic and very much appreciated I’m sure. Now I can’t get that song sung by Helen O’Connell and Dean Martin out of my head, “How do you like your eggs in the morning?” I hope it’s in your heads now too.

Don’t shy away from discovering who your real friends are, it can be very refreshing and offer an immense sense of worth when you find out you have one or two truly amazing friends.

Oh, anDoj, sunny side upd I like mine sunny side up, and if they come with a kiss, even better.

Thanks for reading and sharing

Doj

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Hi friends. Have a great weekend!

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A reason to be greatful

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ANTI- Mafia Tours

Addiopizzo travelIts not as simple as to label this initiative as ‘Mafia tours’ although there is probably not another good way of framing it yet. The focus of ‘Addio Pizzo Travel’ and other initiatives locally, is to educate visitors on the ‘Anti Mafia’ initiatives in the region and to encourage ethical consumerism. The small issue is that you will of course unwittingly invite those gory glory seekers who associate so much kudos by associating themselves with Mafia groups, tactics and history. The hope is that through educating these would be fans of the Mafia Phenomenon they might see how terrifyingly disgusting and real the phenomenon has become. I worked along side Addio Pizzo for six months and was able to experience first hand the difficulties Sicily’s society has had to cope with. How changing perspectives in the region is not a simple task.

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To my friends

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